Making friends isn’t always easy. Some children are naturally outgoing, while others struggle with shyness, nerves, or fitting in. Parents often ask: “How can I help my child build friendships?” or “What activities are best for shy kids?”
The playground is one place children develop social skills — but it’s not the only place. Afterschool activities like martial arts give kids an extra opportunity to build friendships in a supportive, structured way.
1. A Welcoming Community
Martial arts schools are designed to be inclusive and supportive. Children are encouraged to help one another, work in pairs, and celebrate each other’s successes. This creates a sense of belonging, especially for kids who might struggle socially at school.
2. Shared Goals Bring Kids Together
In martial arts, everyone is working towards similar goals — learning new skills, earning belts, or improving techniques. These shared experiences naturally bring children closer, giving them a common language and sense of teamwork.
3. Confidence to Connect
Shy children often hold back from making friends because they don’t feel confident. Martial arts builds self-esteem step by step, helping children feel good about themselves. With that confidence, approaching classmates and forming new friendships becomes easier.
4. Respect and Kindness Are Core Values
Unlike some competitive environments, martial arts teaches respect above all else. Children bow to each other, encourage partners, and learn to treat others with kindness. These habits translate directly into healthier friendships at school and beyond.
5. Lasting Friendships Beyond the Mat
The bonds children make in martial arts often extend outside of class — into school, community events, and even family friendships. Parents frequently say that training not only gave their child confidence, but also a whole new group of friends who share positive values.
Friendships are one of the most important parts of childhood. By giving children opportunities to connect in a safe, supportive environment, martial arts helps them build friendships that go beyond the playground — friendships based on respect, teamwork, and shared goals.
If you’d like to see how martial arts can help your child grow in confidence and make new friends, book a free trial class at Absolute Martial Arts in Carshalton, Caterham, North Cheam, or Ewell.